“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” – Suzy Kassem
Let’s talk, ladies.
As women, the voices in our heads can be relentless. Punishing. Devastating. We become masters of self-criticism and second-guessing. The phrase “not ________ enough” plays on repeat in our minds. And, slowly, these thoughts can take hold of our being and stifle our will. We lose the power within us when we start to believe those voices.
One of the places we are most vulnerable to these voices is a place where we often feel intimidated physically: the gym. The voices tell us we can’t lift weights and be feminine at the same time. They decree that we can’t focus on what our bodies can do without first thinking about how they look. They convince us we can’t risk failing because then we’ll feel even weaker.
You can change this.
You can take responsibility for yourself, starting with the voice inside your head. See that voice for what it is: yourself holding you back. Here’s how. Take a fear statement and turn it into a need statement. A need statement gives you a clear idea of how you can take action, rather than invalidating or paralyzing you. It negates the word “can’t” and empowers you with “can.”
I’m worried about looking stupid. => I need to build my confidence like a muscle — it takes practice.
Everyone else will be way better than I am. => I need to remember that I’m doing this for me and it’s important to my happiness.
I’m afraid I’ll get hurt. => I need to understand and be assertive about my limitations and comfort level.
This will be way too hard for me. => I need to work to improve my skills and abilities over time.
I challenge you to scrutinize that voice in your head and reveal it for what it really is. Don’t let yourself stand in your own way.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Everyone makes choices in life. Your choices are based on your values. Your values define your existence. What do you choose for yourself through your actions? What’s most important to you ultimately? Who do you want to be in this world?
I want to be strong. Not just with back squats and pull-ups, but with courage, dedication, and resilience. I want to do things that will make me feel proud about myself. I’m proud to face new challenges. I’m proud to be committed to my goals. I’m proud to learn from my failures. I don’t want to be THE best — I want to be MY best. And to me, that means I’m better than I was yesterday. If I can do that, I’m powerful.